One-on-One: The Grief Recovery Method
The emotions
The unspeakable heartache of loss…
Wondering when life will ever again be lit up with joy or hope?
There isn’t enough fresh oxygen to breathe. The wind has been harshly knocked from your sails…
How do you even move through the day and simply survive the pain? You just don’t want to drag yourself from behind your closed curtains.
Your bed has become your new safe home.
The best you can do is isolate.
Your energy is shot.
Suddenly, out of nowhere you are in a fit of an angry outburst.
Being present in any conversation doesn’t even exist… you are completely out of the moment.
Reaching for carbohydrates becomes an unwanted habit that you cannot seem to resist. The pain continues – Jamoca almond fudge is not the answer. You eat it anyway.
Friends mean well
Sometimes friends say, “Just give it time; you’ll get over it!”
Others say, “Just keep busy.”
No one seems to get that the path ahead feels so dark and threatening without your beloved close by.
You push away friends and family who genuinely wish to be of loving support.
In the Grief Recovery Method, one of the definitions of grief is: “Reaching out for someone who has always been there for us, only to find when we need him or her one more time, they are no longer there.”
Sometimes friends, who only mean well, will say things to us like this after someone has passed on: “Please don’t feel bad; he is no longer in pain!”
The fact is that you do feel bad and your heart is shattered… Someone saying this to you is truthfully telling you not to feel your raw emotions in the moment of your heartache. The result is unintentionally hurtful.
At moments when you might have just said a final farewell in a break-up with a cherished, long-time lover, a friend might look at you and say: “Hey, you’re wonderful! Let’s put you on a dating website this weekend. I just know the right guy is out there for you!”
Huh?! What? Dating someone new is the very last thing on your heart in the moment. Sometimes folks just don’t know what to say…
When you suffer the loss of a dearly loved aunt or uncle whom your younger sister or brother also adored, your parent might tell you: “You need to be strong for your baby sister… Dry those tears!”
An emotional Sherpa to light the way on your path to healing
My intention is to serve as your emotional Sherpa in each of seven weeks in an empowered action program. The One-on-One Grief Recovery Method has been proven.
Your journey forward will be lit with compassion. A new toolkit will be yours to keep and move beyond loss to restore joy and hope again in your life.
What do you mean by a “proven” strategy?
At times, my clients understandably wish to know what foundation of science this Grief Recovery Method has to offer?
At the College of Public Health from Kent State University, there have been recent studies which have successfully illustrated that clients who complete the action steps in the short-term Grief Recovery Method have gained new knowledge, attitudes, beliefs, and then behaviors about grieving.
I am happy to share success stories with you.
What results can happen from taking these steps?
Sleeping well and peacefully.
Breathing deeply. A new sense of calm.
Feeling a new sense of inner peace.
Having painful memories slowly become fond memories instead…
Reconnecting with loved ones: family… friends…
Resilience. Patience. Love.
Returning to work with focus.
Desire for good food again…
Undesirable behaviors cease…
Good energy returns.
Increased insight.
Hope.
Joy.
